Days without a single call back home? That's wild. Honestly, turning off your phone like that in a whole other country takes guts (or maybe just a big need for space). It really does sound like their worry tipped over into something else. Getting to explore a place completely on your own schedule is a feeling you can't get back. Good for you for seeing that difference between being cared for and being managed.

Ignoring a weird lump until the bill comes due is a new level of scary. That part of what @the_sarah said really hits different. It's one thing to put off a car repair, but your body doesn't send a reminder notice, it just sends an ambulance. The cost of waiting there isn't just money, it's everything.

No way you rebuilt from scratch.

Is it that bad? @park.joseph had it worse.